When a loved one has with dementia, it can be very painful for friends and family members. It’s often a struggle to figure out how to communicate with them, as it’s often not easy to carry on a conversation as it once was. Patients with dementia often appear confused or frustrated and may not recognize loved ones, which can make it even more difficult to communicate with them. However, there are things you can do to make it easier to speak with them.
Manage your own emotions
When you communicate with your loved one, take a moment to centre yourself first. It’s important to recognize that the situation might become difficult and that you may become frustrated. When you know that going in, it can help to keep you calm in the event that you become frustrated. This is important because those with dementia can be extra sensitive and may lash out if they sense you getting upset.
Stay positive
When you have a conversation, keep in mind that it’s not just about what you say. It’s also very much about how you say it. It’s always best to keep things positive and happy. You can illustrate this through your tone of voice and body language. While you might not always be able to steer the conversation towards only happy topics, keeping this positive mindset will help keep your loved one engaged and calm. In the event that you need to correct their behaviour, turn it into a positive suggestion instead of a negative command. Instead of saying “Don’t do that” you could say “Let’s do this instead.”
Get rid of the distractions
These days, everyone is all about multitasking. We regularly have conversations while we’re watching television or scrolling through the internet on our phones. However, for those with dementia, it can be difficult to pay attention to more that one thing at a time. When you want to sit down and have a conversation, it’s a good idea to minimize the distractions. Turn off the television or any music and make sure you have a quiet place to talk. Always make sure you get their attention before you speak, so they know where to focus their attention in that moment.
Keep it simple and slow
When you speak, make sure not to ramble on. It’s easier for them to understand when you speak in short sentences. If you ask questions, make sure to present them one at a time. Otherwise, they’re likely to get confused and lose track of their thoughts. Consider your cadence as well – if you speak too quickly, they may not be able to follow along.
Make them laugh
It’s pretty hard to feel frustrated or upset when you’re laughing, right? When you speak with them, it’s always a good idea to try to make them laugh. It keeps the atmosphere light and relaxed, which is just what you want. There’s a reason they say laughter is the best medicine!
Listen carefully
Communication isn’t a one-way street. While you can control what you say and how you react, it’s also important to make sure they feel like they are being heard. Be patient and listen intently, and always make sure you allow them time to get their thoughts out. If they can’t seem to articulate things, ask them to explain it in another way. It’s also a good idea to give them confirmation that you’ve understood them by repeating the point and asking them if you’ve got it right.
How Bria Communities cares for residents with dementia
At Bria Communities, we are experienced with providing care for residents with dementia, and understand that each resident has unique care needs. In order to provide the best care possible, our leadership team is facilitating the process of having all our staff (from care aides through to kitchen staff) participate in the Virtual Dementia Tour. This is a training session that allows staff members to simulate some of the symptoms that residents may be experiencing. This unique exercise gives staff members greater empathy and understanding for what those living with dementia may be going through.
Our goal is always to ensure residents are happy and healthy. We encourage our residents to take part in planned social and recreational programs so they can stay active. Everyone can participate in these activities, regardless of physical challenges, as all programs are adapted to match individual needs and abilities.
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